I don’t really know how to start this post off, but I am just going to go ahead and jump right into it. The world is crazy, we are busier than we have ever been, our attention is demanded by the people in our homes, our pets, our dinging smart phones, the papers we receive in the mail, so on and so forth. We are running on empty, and we are wondering why divorce, suicide, depression and anxiety rates are higher than they’ve ever been. To be honest, this doesn’t seem that ironic to me. We are literally drained, yet more and more is demanded of us every single day, and this increase in demand goes up with every responsibility (read: children, pets, volunteer work, etc) that we decide to say “yes” to. Interestingly enough, family/children, pets, and helping others are really probably the most important things that we will have in our lives– so why do they bring us the most stress? Have you ever stopped to think about how you handle your daily “to-do” list? Do you have a daily to-do list? The truth is that having things “to-do” is literally a responsibility of being an adult, and being a productive member of society. Sure, we could all just lay around in bed all day watching TV, but did anybody who ever chose to do that live a happy, productive, joy filled life? I’m willing to say no.
Whether you’re a stay at home mom, a successful career woman, or a college student, the reality is that we all have daily things that have to get done. I have found that the way I start my day is usually the kind of day that I will end up having. Does this make sense?
If I wake up in a frazzled mess to two children screaming and needing my attention only to walk downstairs to a living room that looks like a bomb went off and last night’s dinner dishes piled high in my sink– I am more than likely going to be a raging B word for the remainder of that day. Maybe you aren’t like me, but my environment directly coorelates to my mood. For example, if my room is a complete disaster, chances are that I am a complete disaster. If my house is a complete mess, chances are that Iam a complete mess. I am going to be real (and if you follow along on IG stories you have seen for yourself) my home isn’t spotless, I am never caught up on my laundry and my children’s toys pretty much own my living room. BUT. I don’t choose to turn my cheek and leave my home like this day in and day out. Why? Not because I am a “housewife” and cleaning my house is my job– although, I do take great pride in providing the best possible environment to love my family well in, and in my opinion, it’s hard for me to love anybody well when all I can focus on is the smell of last night’s dinner and the clutter of lord knows what on my counter tops. So, having said that, I take it upon myself to keep a nice home.. for myself, and for my family.
As I mentioned above, how I start my day typically leads to the kind of day I have. I have noticed that there are a few things that I can do to ensure that whatever the day ahead of me holds that I have done what I can to “have a happy day.” Having said that– obviously, some days just straight up suck and there is literally nothing that can turn them around, and if you are having one of those today, I am so sorry. We all have those kinds of days every so often, but for the average run of the mill day, I have shared with you some of the things that I do to make it as happy as possible.
Make My Bed.
Guys, both of my kids can be screaming at the top of their lungs, Teddy could be pooping down the hall way, but I will not leave my room to start my day until my bed is made. Like, obviously if there is an emergency my bed being made is not important…but, there are very few things that keep me from leaving my bedroom for the day with an unmade bed. Why? Well, it’s kind of simple– the bed is the focal point of a BEDroom…. so, there may be sixteen thousand laundry baskets overflowing and baby clothes everywhere, but, if the focal point of my bedroom is put together, the bedroom feels, well, put together.
Also– there is nothing like coming into your room at the end of the day to a made bed, turning down the sheets, and putting the day behind you. If you have the best day in the world and come home to a made bed, that’s great! But, i’ve found having a made bed makes more of a difference at the end of a really shitty day.
Take my word for it– give it a try, see how it makes you feel.
Find A Moment For You.
So, if you are a Mom like me, your day more than likely starts when your kids decide to start their day. True or false? Somedays I will allow my children to dictate when my day begins, and most of the time these kind’s of days come after night’s that I was up breastfeeding Lennon for a majority and I am exhausted. But, on my average day, I like to choose when my day begins. I have chosen for myself that 7:30 is a good time to get up. Do I secretly dream of laying in bed until 9am without a care in the world (or somebody who needs me) heecckkk yes, but, that isn’t the season of life that I am currently in and this season isn’t changing any time soon. That being my reality, on most days I will try to be up at 7:30 to have a few moments to myself. It’s amazing what even 20 minutes of quiet in the morning can do. Typically, I will make my bed, head into my bathroom where I brush my teeth and do my morning skincare routine. Then I will head downstairs, brew some coffee, and if my kid’s are still sleeping, do my devotional, a quick workout, or get something done that needs done. Sometimes this moment for myself doesn’t happen until later in the day– but, no matter what kind of day we are having, I make sure that this happens every. single. day.
You cannot serve from an empty vessel. Read that again. If you are empty, you cannot give, you cannot serve, and you damn sure cannot have the patience to deal with a toddler.
Turn On Some Music.
I have found that the worst of household chores feel a whole heck of a lot better with something other than 1) silence and 2) Mickey Mouse Clubhouse playing in the background. Whenever I am about to do something that I dread (read: cleaning the kitchen up after cooking, etc) I put music on in the house. Music is how we start our day. I make sure that for the first hour of the day that we don’t have the TV on (even if Luca is screaming for Blaze and the Monster Machines). Instead of tv, we play music. I am not one of those Mom’s that don’t let their kid have tv or downtime.. I actually think that it’s really important that our children have downtime and time to themselves. I am not going to lie, I currently have 28 episodes of Blaze recorded on our DVR because as of right now, that is a guaranteed 26 minutes of Luca being occupied. Not sure how “Turn On Some Music” led me to talking about Blaze– but, put on some music and knock out whatever it is that you’re dreading. Oh, I remembered why I started talking about Blaze– we start the first hour of our day without TV and I sit on the floor and we play while listening to music so that if the day goes to hell and I need to rely on all 28 episodes I don’t feel quite as bad at the end of the day. so, yeah… now you can let go of the idea that I am supermom or something. 🙂
Reach Out To Someone You Love. (Connection).
Even if it’s a text message that takes you less than 5 seconds to write (because 5 seconds is all you have) do. this. daily.
It’s amazing the way a day can turn around by simply connecting with another person. Even if it’s a quick “love and miss you” to a family member or friend, it’s important.
Pick Up Before Going To Bed.
As I mentioned before– how my day starts is usually how my day ends. If it’s one of those mornings when both of the kids are up before me and I don’t get a chance to even brush my teeth (or heaven forbid make my bed)– there is literally nothing worse than walking down the stairs to a living room covered in toys and a kitchen that has dishes piled high from last night’s dinner. Very very rarely do I go to bed without cleaning the kitchen, starting the dishwasher (so that I wake up to all of the daily things we use being cleaned) and cleaning up the living room aka. the play room. Sometimes I am just too tired to do it, and honestly, I regret it every time I choose to go to bed without getting this stuff done. When things go as planned and I pick up our space, I am always SO thankful that I did. It’s literally a breath of fresh air knowing that I am starting the day “fresh” and that I am not playing catch up from the day before– this is how dishes start to pile in the sink, laundry starts to pile high, etc. A little a day goes a really long way.
Take Care Of You.
When the day ends, do something for yourself. Whether this means– taking a bath, doing a face mask, meditating, reading, journaling, catching up on a tv show, etc. Whatever you do, don’t end your day scrolling IG. I know that may sound insane, but I literally make it a point to put my phone on the charger and not pick it up again once I get into bed. I find that it really helps me to shut my mind off and to get better rest.
I would love to hear what you do to have a happy day– I have learned these things about myself by paying attention to my mood and by reflecting a lot. If you spend a few minutes of your day doing what I like to call “a self-check” you’ll start to notice trends about yourself too. I have found that centering myself before my day begins leads to a better day for not only myself, but for my family.. and even if sometimes it’s hard for me to take the time FOR ME, I do it for them, because they deserve the best possible me.
oh happy day. xo, G